Grooming

Grooming is when a person builds a relationship with a child, young person or an adult who's at risk so they can abuse them and manipulate them into doing things.

The abuse is usually sexual or financial, but it can also include other illegal acts.

Types of grooming

Grooming can take place online or in person and it can happen over a short or long period of time - from days to years.

Online

Groomers are good at lying about who they are, particularly online where they can create a false identity and pretend to be younger than they are. People can be groomed online through:

• social media networks
• text messages and messaging apps, like WhatsApp
• email
• text, voice and video chats in forums, games and apps

In person

A groomer can be a stranger or someone the victim already knows and trusts, for example through a friend or family, or at a club they go to.

Signs of grooming

It can be difficult to tell if someone is being groomed – the signs aren't always obvious and may be hidden. Some signs to look out for:

• Are they being secretive about how they're spending their time?
• Do they have an older boyfriend or girlfriend?
• Do they have money or new things like clothes and mobile phones that they can't or won't explain?
• Are they drinking or taking drugs?
• Are they spending more or less time than usual online or on their devices?
• Do they seem upset or withdrawn?
• Are they using sexual language you wouldn’t expect them to know?
• Are they spending more time away from home or going missing for periods of time?

A person won't know they're being groomed, they will trust their abuser who is giving them lots of attention and gifts. Also, their groomer may have warned them not to talk to anyone about it.

Grooming is an offence. If you suspect a person is being groomed, even if you’re not sure, please tell someone.

If you think you're being groomed, you should tell someone.

If you or someone else is in danger right now

Is someone about to be attacked or hurt? Is a crime taking place right now? If yes, call 999 and ask for the police.

If you have a hearing or speech impairment, use our textphone service 18000 or text us on 999 if you’ve pre-registered with the emergencySMS service.

If you're in danger but you can't talk on the phone, you should still call 999, then follow these instructions.

If it isn't an emergency you can report grooming to us:

• online
• by calling 101
• if you have a hearing or speech impairment, use our textphone service on 18001 101.